Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff

Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff

Looks like our friend here could not help from sweating the small stuff!

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Sweating the small stuff or worrying about the small daily concerns in life takes our energy and focus away from whats really important. Worrying about small things which doesn’t affect our lives or the lives of those we love adds unnecessary stress. When we stop sweating the small stuff we are able to think clearer and expend more energy into what really matters to us.

Examples of sweating the small stuff:

-Burger King forgot to put mayo on your Whopper, and boy are you mad.

-An angry drive gives you the finger- you invite the driver to pull over for a talk. 

-You get a flat tire- you call your tire names I can’t write here.

-Your boss forgot to add you to the email list- you write a “matter of fact” email to your boss.

-Your date is 5 minutes late- you call them, cancel the date and any future dates because they disrespected you by being late.

-You gain 5 pounds-  you cry your life is over and will never be as it was before.

-Your waitress forgot your creamer- what a shame you ask to speak to manager.

-Someone doesn’t like you- you wonder what you did.

-You have been told “No” – you give up.

-You have a bad hair day -you don’t leave the house and you call off work

Instead of fussing over small things like the one’s above and like our friend Buddy in the picture.  Lets focus on that which makes our life better.  

My Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching healing and empowering others to be their best.   -Rhonda Davis-

Are You Living Your Passion

Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs” -Farrah Gray

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In order to live your passion you must first know what your passion is. Most of us already know what our passions are, however we don’t listen to our hearts (where passion comes from) . We instead listen to our minds which are filled with years of teachings, rememberable experiences, and the understandings of those more affluent than ourselves. When it comes to us managing own lives, for some reason we don’t trust ourselves. We deep down feel that someone else knows better how we can arrive at the life that was meant for us. It’s important that we not look to others for fulfillment. I will tell you that, you won’t find your passion from money or material things. Passion comes from inside you. It’s something that you would do without any monetary reward, something you look forward to doing. Finding your passion isn’t difficult. Living your passion is a life style. Never be ashamed of your passion because of its not what others think it should be. Re-write your life manuscript. Only you have the answers.

Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. -Steve Jobs

My Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching healing and empowering others to be their best.   -Rhonda Davis-

Better Day Challenge

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  1. Today do not look to others for approval on how you should live your life. Think for yourself, don’t ask others what they think or what you should do about things you already have answers to. Today follow your intuition. Finally, do not let others make you feel guilty for your life decisions. This is your life and no one else’s.
  1. Today remove toxic people from your life and don’t feel bad, no matter if they are a relative, partner, friend, or coworker. If they cause you pain and make you feel small- remove them. These types of people are here to steal your joy. Today speak only good about others and encourage others to do the same.
  1. Don’t be afraid to share. This is especially true for artist, entrepreneurs and professionals. Understand that “to whom much is given, much will be required”. There are givers and there are takers, givers are much happier. Don’t worry about anyone stealing your thunder, instead be honest, helpful and great at what you do.
  1. Don’t procrastinate, indecisiveness most of the time just delays the inevitable. How many times have we wanted to do something but didn’t and now regret not doing it. And how many times had we taken a chance and did something we were afraid to do and was happy with the outcome. We usually wondered why we waited so long to do what we really desired.

    My Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching healing and empowering others to be their best.   -Rhonda Davis-

Change your life by applying 7 Universal Laws

 

All creation is governed by laws. The principles which operate in the outer universe are called natural laws. Other names for Natural Laws are Universal Laws, the Laws of God, and Divine Laws. If you used the Natural Laws the right way, they can create the life you desire. Are things happening to you that leave you asking, why does bad things seems to always happen to me? Why couldn’t I be born with a better life? If you pay close attention to the Natural Laws of the Universe, you will no longer be able to say, “I don‘t know why these things are happening to me.” There have certainly been times in my life that I asked these questions. It wasn’t until I learned about the Natural Laws of the Universe that I was able to understand that my life and happiness depends on how I perceive them, how I choose to live my life and my belief system. There are seven laws of the universe which an bring stability, assurance, and confidence to your life if you make the choice of studying, understanding, and, applying them.

The Oxforddictionary.com defines Natural Law as:

  1. A body of unchanging moral principles regarded as a basis for all human conduct.
  2. An observable law relating to natural phenomena:

http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/us/definition/american_english/natural-law?q=natural+law

The Law of Transmutation : States that energy moves in and out of physical form. Your thoughts are creative energy. The more you focus your thinking on what you desire, the more you harness your creative power to move that energy into results in your life. The Universe organizes itself according to your thoughts.

How to apply it: Put your energy and effort, your thoughts and actions into attracting what you desire out of life. Do this and you will surely attract the physical manifestation of that energy.

The Law of Vibration: The Law of Vibration says that everything in the universe vibrates, nothing rests. Your thoughts are vibrations that you send out into the universe. When you concentrate, the vibrations are stronger (this is why mindfulness is so important). Your thoughts are cosmic waves of energy that penetrate all time and space .

How to apply it: Focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want.

The Law of Relativity: Which says that everything just is. Nothing is what it is until you relate it to something. It is all about getting into the habit of always comparing your present situation with a situation less great, always comparing the problems you are facing with problems way bigger and compare your dream or goals with something even bigger so that achieving them will seem easy.

How to apply it: Practice relating your situation to something worse than your current situation, and you will feel good about where you are.

The Law of Cause and Effect: It means that whatever you send out into the universe (that can be through thoughts, feelings and action) comes back to you. What goes around comes around.

How to apply it: Say good things to everyone treat everyone with respect, and it will all come back to you. Never worry about what you are going to get. Just concentrate on what you can give and give it unconditionally.

The Law of Polarity states that everything has an opposite. Hot-Cold, Light-Dark, Up-Down, Good-Bad. It is about always looking for the good in any situation. We live in an orderly universe and when there is order there is balance.

How to apply it: Look for the good in people and situations. What you focus on, you make bigger in your life ( good or bad).

The Law of Rythym : which says that the tide goes out… Night follows day… Good times – bad times. We all have good times and bad times, but nothing stays the same. Change is constant.

How to apply it: When you are on a down swing, know that things will get better. Think of the good times that are coming.

The Law of Gestation: All things have a beginning and grow into form as more energy is added to it. Thoughts are like seeds planted in our fertile minds that bloom into our physical experience if we have nourished them.

How to apply it: Stay still and know that your goals will become reality when the time is right.

 

My Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching healing and empowering others to become their best. -Rhonda Davis-

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sunday January 25, 2015 – It is COLD

I,m enjoying this cold Wintry Day. May your Sunday be filled with peace and relaxation.
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My Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching, healing and empowering others to become their best -Rhonda Davis-

Who Wrote Your Life Manuscript

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Who wrote your life’s manuscript? My life’s manuscript was written by my family, environment, DNA, health, experiences, economics, values, educational, and church to name a few. All of these provided me instructions on how to survive and gave me experiences which aided me in becoming a productive member of society.Screen Shot 2015-01-23 at 12.02.28 PM

After years of being a productive member of society or living life on auto-pilot. I realized that in order for me to gain the optimal prize a” happy life” I would have to re-write my life’s manuscript. My life manuscript was not written in 24 hours therefore it will certainly take more than 24 hours to re-write it. But with each step I am more grateful. I feel fuller and I am more determined. We are all unique individuals, embrace your uniqueness.

My Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching healing and empowering others to be their best.   -Rhonda Davis-

Happiness -Vs- Contentment

Thursday January 22, 2015

cropped-img_0989.jpgDebates over theories on happiness versus contentment are ongoing. Everyone has their own definition of its meaning. Today scholars are finding ways to measure happiness and contentment, which will likely add more information for continued debate. For some reason no matter the vast number of meanings in print explaining happiness vs contentment we continue to challenge the theories of others.

From most of my research on the subject, It seems that most people feel happiness is more of a blissful feeling than that of contentment. Some even look down on feelings of contentment, believing that it is a sell out to being happy. I asked myself, what’s the big idea? Who deep down really cares if our positive emotions and feelings of blessedness, joy, gladness, satisfaction, peace, well-being, and pleasure are titled happiness or contentment. I’m going to believe that our desire to continue to seek knowledge and contribute  knowledge and experiences to life is the driving force behind our ongoing debates on the subject.

Happiness as defined by Oxford English:

http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/us/definition/american_english/happy

Contentment as defined by Oxford English Dictionary:

http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/us/definition/american_english/contentment

Here are some simpler ways people have compare happiness and contentment:

Happiness                                             Contentment

Flamboyant                                            Unremarkable/normal

Intense Pleasure                                    State of being

Laughter                                                 Smile

Remembered                                          Forgettable

Feeling can’t be sustained                   Can sustain feeling

Contentment (interchangeable)           Happiness (interchangeable)

My theory on happiness and contentment is that the meanings are interchangeable, I see them both as a win, win. Saying this, you must understand that there are different planes of happiness and contentment. For an example one could feel happy/content when they found out that they “cheated death” and/or another could feel happy/content when learning they won a trip around the world. In both situations they would likely experience positive emotions and feelings which can be defined as happiness and also defined as contentment. Each individual forms their own meaning of what happiness and contentment is based on their own experiences.

My goal is to turn my negative experiences into positive experiences so that I can have an opportunity towards feelings of well-being being and blissfulness. My feelings of well-being doesn’t mean that I don’t experience problems and struggles; and my feelings of blissfulness doesn’t mean that I have to be swinging from a chandelier. Feeling happy /content is one of the reasons I want to continue to wake up in the morning. Lets not spend too much time on words instead, spend more time practicing mindfulness and positivity.

My Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching healing and empowering others to be their best.   -Rhonda Davis-

Rise and Shine

Wednesday January 21, 2015

cropped-img_0989.jpgHow long does it take for you to get going after first waking up? 15 minutes, as long as it takes for the snooze button on your alarm clock to ring. Most of us wish we had more minutes to rest when we first awake causing us to abuse our alarm clocks. If only they could talk, the stories they would tell. It’s quite normal for us to not look forward to doing some of the things necessary for us to improve our daily lives. It is easy to argue, I’m fine, as we see those less fortunate around us. But the truth is, most of us want to be better, we yarn to live the best life possible and would do just about anything legal to improve ours lives.

The fact is, each day is the start of a new journey, when first waking up we are renewed, we have new hope, and a new chance for better opportunities. What better time is there to start our journey of living our best life possible.

3 Daily Commitments to Improve Your Daily Life

  • Commit several minutes after first waking up to mindfulness. Smile- yes try your best to smile. Remember the times you were in love and you smiled when first waking up warped in your lovers arms, or when you had a special event to look forward to such as a new job, new outfit to wear, concert, date. You get it. (You can also spend the several minutes Praying, or meditating). The goal is to clear your mind of all negativity, fear, and pessimism and not think about yesterday or tomorrow. You are just in the present moment. You are not judging anything taking place within these several minuets.

  • Commit your day to working towards dumping negative thoughts from your mind. This will take a life time of practice, but I promise, with each negative thought you dump out the better you will feel and the more productive your day will be.
  • Commit to eating better and daily exercise. Making a commitment to eating healthier, drinking more water and moving more than you had yesterday is all it takes, It’s that simple. I made a commitment to stretching my body when I first get out of bed. My goal is to just loosen up my bones and muscles. During the rest of my day I will stretch on purpose and bend as much as I can throughout my day.

What happens when you use these 3 daily commitments are you feel better, you look better and your day is more productive. Taking these baby steps to improve your life costs you nothing. This is a start to a continued journey of self improvement.

My Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching healing and empowering others to become their best.  -Rhonda Davis-

Happiness and Mindfulness

Tuesday January 20, 2015

cropped-img_0989.jpgI know people who can count on their hands the number of times they felt happy in the past year. They go about their daily lives hiding the way they really feel inside by putting on a happy face; which works temporarily believe it or not.

Happiness is such a rare commodity that people are able to tell you when they were last happy, where they were at when they were last happy and why they were last happy. Some of us have spent years dedicating our lives to unwanted jobs, toxic relationships, and embarrassing addictions, mostly for the purpose of wanting to feel happy and fulfilled. Please do me a favor and stop beating yourself up, because the decisions and choices you have made In the past. We are who we are today because of our past experiences. Practicing mindfulness is a great way to a balanced and happy life.

Mindfulness is having total awareness (on purpose ) of what is taking place around you right now, in this moment. This means you are aware of your thoughts, feelings, sensations and surroundings without judging anything that is taking place while you’re in the moment. You have blocked out past thoughts and events and you’re not thinking of any future events.

Practicing mindfulness improves personal growth, and optimizes your ability to handle life’s difficulties. Mindfulness is beneficial for people coping with anxiety, depression, insomnia, pain, stress and the sense of well being.

My Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching healing and empowering others to become their best. -Rhonda Davis-