You Don’t Have to Try so Hard- Your Beautiful

Put your makeup on. Get your nails done. Curl your hair. Run the extra mile.

Keep it slim. So they like you. Do you like you… I love the message in this song.

Try- by Colbie Caillat

You don’t have to try to beautiful, you are.

My Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching healing and empowering others to be their best. -Rhonda Davis-

Do You Have The Winter Blues

Winter isn’t call Old Man Winter for nothing. Perhaps you have noticed greater mood changes during autumn and winter months. Most people naturally experience more down days in autumn and winter than during times of longer and brighter days. If you have noticed increased changes in your mood, know that you are not alone. The best news is Spring is right around the corner, this is a time to celebrate. Continue reading “Do You Have The Winter Blues”

10 Timeless Principles for Lasting Happiness

Happy Friday,

The weekend is here. Take time during the weekend to do something that makes you happy, no matter how small.  No excuses, it doesn’t matter if you’ve already made plans . It doesn’t matter if your normal routine doesn’t allow time for add in’s. Just do something for you, no matter how small. If your normal routine already includes you splurging on yourself,  do something nice for someone else. You deserve to be happy. Continue reading “10 Timeless Principles for Lasting Happiness”

Best Things About Being Single Follow-up

IMG_0989A couple days ago I wrote an article called “The Best Things About Being Single”. I was surprised by the different views on the article. Thank you for your comments and messages. First I would like to say my intention was never to offend anyone by my best reasons for being single, so I want to start by saying I’m sorry if you were offended. I am also aware that I can’t please everyone. Topics on singleness is a sorta taboo topic unless it’s in a group of the same types of people. Discussions on singleness is as deep as discussions on religion; someone is sure to feel uncomfortable after the discussion has ended, but why is this? Well it’s because, where you currently are in your life, in a relationship or single, is how you feel about being single or in a relationship. For example if your in a happy relationship and my telling you the best things about my being single, you could possibly not relate at that time because your reality is different- you probably don’t want to imagine being without your love. The same is not true for if I was in a relationship and told you the best things about my being in the relationship. Your feeling uncomfortable with what I said is less likely. You would be able to relate to what I said because this is what we have been taught to believe. Most people if having to choose between being in a relationship or being single, would choose being in a relationship. It easier to go towards the grain than against it. 

I also received several messages which asked me if what I written was what I really felt. Well yes! I wouldn’t had written it, if it wasn’t how I felt. I am aware that one could judge what I said, as me being a selfish lady. I understand that it would be better if I was self-less- not aiming to please myself but rather aiming to please others. I have learned that just as there are pro’s and con’s to being single, there are also pro’s and con’s to loving one-self. When other’s don’t know you as well as you know yourself they are shocked by your life decisions. When you love yourself you easily appear more selfish, and over confident; and when you take a journey to re-write your life’s manuscript others are often puzzled with what you write in it.

The bottom line is, my original life plan didn’t include me being single and especially as long I have, but if I had not known the great things about being single I would not have chosen singleness. Thank goodness that I learned that there is more than one way to live and enjoy life. Single-dom (Having dominant and dominion over my life) rocks!

My Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching healing and empowering others to be their best.  

-Rhonda Davis-

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It’s Never Too Late

Let’s not put off for tomorrow, those special things we can do today.  Meet Ernestine Shepherd a phenomenal woman, who ‘s in her late 70’s and proving that it’s never too late to set and accomplish goals. Ernestine Shepherd’s story has definitely inspired me, I hope her story will do the same for you.

My Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching healing and empowering others to be their best.   -Rhonda Davis-

Be Phenomenal

Hello friends,

This is a motivational video i found on you tube from MotivationGrid.com, i found it inspiring. The best thing I liked about this video is it doesn’t hide the fact that living a  phenomenal life isn’t for cowards. It lets you know that there’s no easy way out to being phenomenal. Being phenomenal takes energy, time and investment. Living a Phenomenal life is less difficult when we know ourselves.  Live from the inside out and not the outside in. Take small steps daily to being phenomenal on the inside then being phenomenal on the outside becomes automatic.

My Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching healing and empowering others to be their best.   -Rhonda Davis-

Watch Your Thoughts

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Watch your thoughts;

They become words.

Watch your words;

They become actions;

Watch your actions;

They become your habits;

Watch your habits;

They become your character;

Watch your character;

It becomes your destiny.

-Lao Tze

cropped-img_0989.jpgMy Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching healing and empowering others to be their best.   -Rhonda Davis-

How Trusting Myself Improved My Life

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I honestly can’t remember a significant time as far back as early childhood that I didn’t trust myself. I’m sure that my not making decisions which affected my survival had something to do with this. I do remember giving myself permission to fail, failing was ok, I guess it was something that I was use to. My mother says I was always an independent child. I’ll say I was a normally rebellious child. My childhood just like yours was unique to shaping me into who I am today. I’m grateful to have been able persevere through my experiences. Today, I can smile and say I’m grateful. Dealing with childhood failure has been one of my greatest teachers. Today I’m able to say I don’t easily fold under pressure.

I recall several “uh-huh” moments in which a light in my braid and heart was turned on at the same time. One of those moments was the first time I learned that I could do anything I put my mind to doing. I learned that whatever I told myself, became my reality. If I let negative thoughts into my mind I would feel bad, and If I let positive thoughts into my mind I would feel good. I learned that I was made in God’s Image and  I learned how the Universe’s energy affects life. I was a young adult at the time and this new information was a gem. This particular “Uh-huh” moment happened when I purchased a book at a resell shop. The book didn’t have a pretty cover and there was nothing special looking about it. The title was “You can If You Think you Can” by Normal Vincent Peal. I had no ideal that my reading this plain looking book would changed how I seen life forever. My journey to improving my life became more serious at that moment. However I needed to improve my trust in self before I was able to see changes in my life. Some of the rules I live my life by and which strengthens my trust in myself are:

  1. I try not to worry about what others think about me. I concentrate on being a better me. I can’t control what others think, I can only control my thoughts.
  2. I don’t let people’s opinion of what I should be doing with my life affect me. Everyone has an opinion, but when it comes to how I should live my life, my opinion is the only one that counts.
  1. I have taken major risk in my life and I’m still standing. Risks are necessary. Be a leader not a follower.
  2. It’s never too late for me to do anything. My life don’t have a cut off time limit. If I want to take a dance class, I will, although it would be kinda creeping for me to enroll in a dance class full of 6 year olds.
  3. My life has a mission which is not set in stone. I can change it as I see fit , but only for the good of myself and man. My main goal is to live my life with integrity.

Trusting yourself adds quality to life and it cost nothing. What better person to trust than yourself. I hope that this past week’s writing has reminded you that you already have the tools needed to live the type of life that you seek.

IMG_0989My Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching healing and empowering others to be their best.   -Rhonda Davis-

Trust Yourself More

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So far I have discussed the importance of self trust, some beliefs, thoughts and myths about self trust. Today i will discuss ways to improve your levels of self trust. Trusting ourselves are one of those things that slip our daily minds, because we are so busy living life. Not many of us walk around asking ourselves if we really trust ourselves. Its usually not until the topic is brought up that we take notice and realize that self trust is an area that we are weak in. Below are a list of things that can be done without the assistance of others to improve self trust.

Self-confidence + Risk + Integrity = Self Trust

Self-confidence

-Think Positive, you are what ever you believe yourself to be.

-Act Positive, if you can see it, and you can believe, it then you can achieve it, it’s that simple.

-Become your own BFF, start taking care of self, listening to self, loving self, and spending more time with self.

-Don’t talk bad about yourself, what we feed our mind becomes our reality.

-Be Kind to Yourself, we are kind to strangers, friends, anyone but ourselves. Treat yourself as you want others to treat you.

Take Risk

-Take risks to increase your competence in an interest. This will improve your self concept, how you see yourself.

-Take the risk to depend on yourself more, this lets you know that you can take care of you 

and strengthens your self trust.

-Don’t break promises to yourself. Do what you say you will do, this increases your self reliance.

-Take risks to change small habits, this improves self-esteem and allows you to see bigger possibilities.

-Take risks to listen to your feelings and emotions you were born with them for a reason.

Live Life with Integrity

-Living life with integrity allows one to be genuine and real.

-Know the principles you live by, know the values and moral do your live by.

-Know your mission for life.

-Know your life’s purpose.

-Seek good in all things.

I was reminded this week that as we increase our self-confidence our love for self grows and we are kinder to ourselves. We think positive thoughts because we understand whatever we tell our mind becomes our reality. Taking risk means moving, we become stagnant when we are afraid to move. Every little risk we take increases our competence, self reliance and trust in self. A quality life is one where we can trust our decisions. A quality life is one where a person falls asleep with a goal in mind and awakens with a purpose. Finding our purpose is detrimental to our happiness however we are not able to find our purpose without first trusting ourselves.

IMG_0989My Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching healing and empowering others to be their best.   -Rhonda Davis-

Beliefs, Thoughts and Myths About Self Trust

Beliefs Thoughts and Myths

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On Sunday I was planning what I wanted to write about this week. I often write about subjects which I can draw inspiration. This week I decided to write about self trust. The topic of trusting yourself sounds so simple. However, it can become complicated by the vast amounts of beliefs, thoughts, information, myths and research on the subject. Yesterday I wrote about the importance of self trust. Today I will list some beliefs, thoughts and myths that people have learned when it comes to trusting themselves.

        Belief:

  • You were either born with it or you were not.
  • Fact:
  • Trusting yourself isn’t something you were born with, it’s a learned behavior. When nurtured self trust brings about the highest level of self-confidence and self truth.
  • Myth:
  • Men were not created to rely on his own understanding. I have a great fondness and respect for the Bible and my Creator. I’m grateful for our relationship. I also know that I am made in his image, Amen!
  • Fact:
  • Building your own personal relationship with the Creator will provide you all the knowledge and tools needed to lead the type of life you desire. My Creator has provided me all the things I need to be happy. I’m Grateful!
  • Belief:
  • Highly confidence people are arrogant and conceited.
  • Fact:
  • Highly confident people are leaders. They are the one’s that knocked on doors, and when they didn’t open, built new doors to go through. Without highly confident people we would still be living life as it was lived in the Stone Days. Trust in yourself as you trust in the 4 seasons. If you bother someone in the process of living your life, thats something that they have to deal with. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
  • Thought:
  • If I trust myself, I could make my predicament worse.
  • Fact:
  • No one knows better what predicament your in than you. Get honest with yourself and accept your past failures. Today is a new day, forget about the past and start living your life as you see it today. Understand that there is no opportunity without risk. Risk is a necessary prerequisite to building trust.
  • Myth:
  • Trust No One
  • Fact:
  • Only people who have learned to trust themselves are able to trust others. If you hear someone say and believe the statement “trust no one” be very leery, these people most likely don’t trust themselves”. Trust is the building block to self confidence, self love, self fulfillment, and happiness. We have to trust someone, for it is impossible for one to do all things.

Self doubt can paralyze us from moving. The goal is to move, move and move, take steps each day towards building a better you. You don’t have to train your mind at all. Your mind already believes that which you tell it. When negative beliefs and thoughts enter your mind about your trusting you, get them out immediately. Negative thoughts are like a fuel to a flame. When ignited they are difficult to put out. Tomorrow I will discuss how we can regain and maintain trust in ourselves.

cropped-img_0989.jpgMy Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching healing and empowering others to be their best.   -Rhonda Davis-