A couple days ago I wrote an article called “The Best Things About Being Single”. I was surprised by the different views on the article. Thank you for your comments and messages. First I would like to say my intention was never to offend anyone by my best reasons for being single, so I want to start by saying I’m sorry if you were offended. I am also aware that I can’t please everyone. Topics on singleness is a sorta taboo topic unless it’s in a group of the same types of people. Discussions on singleness is as deep as discussions on religion; someone is sure to feel uncomfortable after the discussion has ended, but why is this? Well it’s because, where you currently are in your life, in a relationship or single, is how you feel about being single or in a relationship. For example if your in a happy relationship and my telling you the best things about my being single, you could possibly not relate at that time because your reality is different- you probably don’t want to imagine being without your love. The same is not true for if I was in a relationship and told you the best things about my being in the relationship. Your feeling uncomfortable with what I said is less likely. You would be able to relate to what I said because this is what we have been taught to believe. Most people if having to choose between being in a relationship or being single, would choose being in a relationship. It easier to go towards the grain than against it.
I also received several messages which asked me if what I written was what I really felt. Well yes! I wouldn’t had written it, if it wasn’t how I felt. I am aware that one could judge what I said, as me being a selfish lady. I understand that it would be better if I was self-less- not aiming to please myself but rather aiming to please others. I have learned that just as there are pro’s and con’s to being single, there are also pro’s and con’s to loving one-self. When other’s don’t know you as well as you know yourself they are shocked by your life decisions. When you love yourself you easily appear more selfish, and over confident; and when you take a journey to re-write your life’s manuscript others are often puzzled with what you write in it.
The bottom line is, my original life plan didn’t include me being single and especially as long I have, but if I had not known the great things about being single I would not have chosen singleness. Thank goodness that I learned that there is more than one way to live and enjoy life. Single-dom (Having dominant and dominion over my life) rocks!
My Life’s mission is to persevere through life’s experiences, to embrace life’s diversities and to endure life’s challenges for the purpose of teaching healing and empowering others to be their best.
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